Thank you for sharing your story in all its rawness, what a gift. Reading life stories like this gives me such insight into my daughter's world. She's 12, obsessed with music and art, and neurodiverse, and watching her navigate school and life can be really painful at times. Always on the outer, excluded for not being "normal" (aka boring). But reading your story fills me with hope, thank you x
I’m so pleased you were able to take so much from my piece. I can’t tell you how heartwarming that feels. I wish your daughter all the happiness in the world and hope she finds her tribe, they will be out there. Xx
Such goosebumps listening to your voice, I have the whole body shivers (in a good way).
Parenthood seems to be the thing that "reveals" the neurodivergence for lots of women, sometimes also compounded by peri/menopause. All the things at once. Absolutely still figuring it out here, but have found such comfort in realising that there are so many of us in the same position.
Yes I’m the same, the neurodivergent community has given me the confidence to be unapologetically me. I definitely think for me peri-menopause is breaking down the mask I’ve worn for so long. I’m definitely finding this chapter to be the most enlightening of my life.
This is so wonderful and honest. Particularly, "And then the moment of real clarity came when my then six-year-old son went into burnout and could no longer attend mainstream school. In my caring for him I discovered both his neurodivergence and also my own."
I had a similar experience when my daughter went into burnout at age twelve. She was also moved out of mainstream school and the process of learning how to attend to her different needs changed me wholly. I came to understand that I had never explored my own creativity, my own quietude. For her, listening and being fully present is how best to communicate and now I offer myself the same care. I'm so grateful our experience (though fraught and emotional) has given me this perspective.
Thank you for your comment and sharing how your experience with your child has changed you. I sometimes wish I had all this knowledge when I was in my twenties as I would have lived life very differently and made different choices but hindsight is never a particularly helpful thing and my son has been the most wonderful gift x
This was a lovely read.... and so similar to how I feel about the world, creating, normal jobs, and experiences raising my own neurodivergent child. It articulated a lot of things I've realised about myself xx
Honestly, I've read it twice now! I keep nodding at it. I too, have come out of the offices to be available to my kids, which feels instinctive, and I'm writing all the time. I'm so much happier, but it's also hard because I'm not earning consistently like I'd like to be. But I'm a much more peaceful, stable person...
Thank you for your lovely comments, it means so much when my words land for others. It’s such a struggle to find the balance of doing what you love and it paying its way!
Thank you for sharing your story in all its rawness, what a gift. Reading life stories like this gives me such insight into my daughter's world. She's 12, obsessed with music and art, and neurodiverse, and watching her navigate school and life can be really painful at times. Always on the outer, excluded for not being "normal" (aka boring). But reading your story fills me with hope, thank you x
I’m so pleased you were able to take so much from my piece. I can’t tell you how heartwarming that feels. I wish your daughter all the happiness in the world and hope she finds her tribe, they will be out there. Xx
This is so raw and real thank you for sharing. I feel like we all can find parts of ourselves in your story.
You are a superstar in my eyes. What a great piece Thankyou - and the tunes 😍
Aww thank you ☺️
Such goosebumps listening to your voice, I have the whole body shivers (in a good way).
Parenthood seems to be the thing that "reveals" the neurodivergence for lots of women, sometimes also compounded by peri/menopause. All the things at once. Absolutely still figuring it out here, but have found such comfort in realising that there are so many of us in the same position.
Yes I’m the same, the neurodivergent community has given me the confidence to be unapologetically me. I definitely think for me peri-menopause is breaking down the mask I’ve worn for so long. I’m definitely finding this chapter to be the most enlightening of my life.
Ps I’m so glad you enjoyed my music, it’s wonderful to be able to share it on here x
This is so wonderful and honest. Particularly, "And then the moment of real clarity came when my then six-year-old son went into burnout and could no longer attend mainstream school. In my caring for him I discovered both his neurodivergence and also my own."
I had a similar experience when my daughter went into burnout at age twelve. She was also moved out of mainstream school and the process of learning how to attend to her different needs changed me wholly. I came to understand that I had never explored my own creativity, my own quietude. For her, listening and being fully present is how best to communicate and now I offer myself the same care. I'm so grateful our experience (though fraught and emotional) has given me this perspective.
Thank you for your comment and sharing how your experience with your child has changed you. I sometimes wish I had all this knowledge when I was in my twenties as I would have lived life very differently and made different choices but hindsight is never a particularly helpful thing and my son has been the most wonderful gift x
It's good to know we can always be learning and evolving. Our children are the best teachers, don't you think?
'Quietude' - what a great word x
Wow, what a beautiful read, really moved me. Success and happiness comes in all shapes and sizes and yours sounds just perfect. x
Thank you, it’s one of the best feelings to know that my words have moved others, it’s one of my main reasons for writing x
This was a lovely read.... and so similar to how I feel about the world, creating, normal jobs, and experiences raising my own neurodivergent child. It articulated a lot of things I've realised about myself xx
Honestly, I've read it twice now! I keep nodding at it. I too, have come out of the offices to be available to my kids, which feels instinctive, and I'm writing all the time. I'm so much happier, but it's also hard because I'm not earning consistently like I'd like to be. But I'm a much more peaceful, stable person...
Thank you for your lovely comments, it means so much when my words land for others. It’s such a struggle to find the balance of doing what you love and it paying its way!
I love that you've read it twice x
Wonderful writing & very inspiring.
Quiet is actually what the universe is made of.
But it doesn't sell.
Thanks again for your persistence.
So related to this and in such a way that I don’t have the words right now to explain. For now, I have simply subscribed.